• Identity Box: An Experiment in Discovering Who I am

    Originally posted on She’s a Precious Mess in 2014 For the month of August, my goal was to figure out who I am separate from being a poet. I drew most of my identity from it. And it became incredibly toxic for me as a person because all I did was live, breathe, feel writing and performing poetry. I guess, in a lot of ways, writing became a lifeline for me. But as other areas of my life began to cry out for attention, it became more of a ball and chain. I used it as a smoke screen so that I wouldn’t have to face the ways I actually…

  • Releasing the urge to capitalise on all my gifts + hobbies

    Gosh, I haven’t done this whole blogging thing in years. Mostly because I lost the ability to write for fun because I started doing it as a job a few years back. Elizabeth Gilbert said in an interview I watched once that “Being multi-talented is a curse.” And I swear I’m not saying that to big-note myself. I’m saying it because, honestly, it is. I’ve put so much pressure on myself over the years to try and capitalise on my gifts—to the point that they became about creating something to be of use for someone else. I’ve never given my gifts to myself. And as a result I’ve spent YEARS…